I wasn’t what people in academia would call a ‘good’ student. In fact I was often in the half of the class that made the top half possible.
So when thinking about writing my first book and even my first blogs it was not hard for the critics in my head to dig up some old footage to remind me of past evidence that said, “Toby can’t write”.
There were 18 years of report cards, SAT scores, and plenty of parent teacher conference memories that all pointed in the same direction – when it came to school (especially and including reading and writing) “Toby’s school work leaves much to be desired.”
These comments and ‘intervention’s were so common that ONE time I got a report card that said “Toby’s performance leaves little to be desired”. It was actually pretty funny because my Dad launched into me….”See, here we go again, Toby’s performance leave much to be desired!” TOM! My mom interrupted, it actually says “little to be desired”.
Ok, so there was that ONE moment of hope for my academic success.
The point is that we all have these tapes in our heads where people from our past have said things like, “Who does he think he is?!” As if being special in any way was an insult to everyone around them.
Pressure to conform, to not be special, is THE specialty of our school system. Yet connection economy success demands the exact opposite.
The connection economy demands that we develop the courage AND the self awareness to say’ “This is who I am!”
“I was once afraid of people saying “Who does he think he is?!. Now I have the courage to say, “This is who I am.”
Try it, you might like it.
The Vaikido Hero Unschool
Unschool – to unhabituate from behaviors, beliefs, and paradigms that prevent prosperity in the connection economy.
Heroic Contribution – An approach to career and business building that builds and attracts a loyal following.